Four Real-Material Things We Keep in the House

A few times a year, I get asked: what do you actually keep in your house? Not the aspirational answer — the real objects that are still being used, still being fought over, still gathering the small marks of actual play. These four things have survived that test. Here’s what we reach for when the … Read more

What a Two-Year-Old Learning Chopsticks Reveals About Motor Development

toddler motor development — two-year-old learning to use chopsticks

We were at Pho King Good, the Vietnamese restaurant where my daughter has eaten since she was four months old, strapped to me in a carrier. She’s two now — right in the middle of the most intense phase of toddler motor development she will ever experience. That night, she reached across the table for … Read more

The Hardest Thing I Do All Day Is Not Catch Her

Mom watching toddler climb boulder — risky play and natural consequences in action

She was at the top of a boulder at the edge of the playground — not a big-for-a-toddler pebble, a real one, taller than she is and then some, with a flat top she’d hauled herself onto using footholds she’d worked out on her own. I could see her knees shaking from a few feet … Read more

What a Wooden Bear Teaches Hands That a Screen Never Will

sensory learning for toddlers — two-year-old sitting in carved wooden bear lap drinking from pink sippy cup

There is a carved bear in a mountain town we pass through, taller than I am, sitting forward on its haunches with its front paws curled like armrests. It’s carved from a single trunk, stained a deep amber-brown, flanked by a pair of carved birch trees so the whole thing reads as a forest scene, … Read more